You had it right when you called us kindred spirits, Art. I am the same. Just like you, I recognized within myself, the desire to avoid conflict at all costs. I thought if I could just make everyone happy then I was happy. It's a process, but I am learning that it does get easier with practice and to give myself grace when I do revert back to old patterns. I am so blessed to know you, Art and am grateful for hearts like yours in this world!
We need more hearts that care and show compassion like you do. I am so proud of you and the growth you are making in this area, as it's so hard to break old patterns and ways of thinking. Well-written & authentically expressed!